Isn’t it crazy how you can jump out of bed some mornings in the best mood ever just ready to tackle anything that comes at you that day? And then other days, you wake up and just want to lay around and do nothing.
It’s hard to always have positive thinking, especially if you don’t really fully understand how powerful your thoughts are.
We have been conditioned as a society to just push and push until there’s no more left to give. “Hard work will fix anything!” is what we are told from the moment we start school until well into our adult years. Our inner dialogue is treated as an afterthought, and our self confidence suffers because of it.
While it’s true that working hard is one component of building confidence in yourself and increasing your self esteem, there are other ways to improve your confidence than just working yourself to the bone.
Our thoughts have more power than we are ever taught. Working hard can cure a lot of things, but if our mindset is not in the right place then we will get stuck in a vicious circle of working ourselves very hard but not building any confidence in what we are doing.
That’s where the power of positive thinking comes in
It’s nobody’s fault in particular that you didn’t learn about the power of positive thinking at a younger age. It’s not your parents’ fault or your teachers’ fault. As a society, we just don’t talk enough about what is actually going on in our minds, and how powerful of a tool (or weapon) it can be.
Believing in yourself isn’t something that just happens overnight. You can’t just flip a confidence switch and build confidence over night. It’s a long process that requires days, months, and years of positive thinking and trial and error.
You want to be able to wake up every day with the positive energy and thoughts that you have on your best days. You want your self esteem to be at its highest all day every day.
You can be more confident.
You can improve your self esteem.
You can believe in yourself.
It all starts with your thoughts and mindset.
Positive thinking is laying the foundation for having a growth mindset. When you fully consume your mind with positive thoughts, you will be amazed at what you can achieve.
Believe in yourself
Believing in ourselves is one of the hardest things to do with the way our brains are wired. We are instinctively wired to act on emotion more than logic.
When we try something new, we are really bad at it. As kids, we are seemingly OK with being bad at stuff because we are learning so many new things. We give ourselves a pass for being bad at things.
You should give yourself the same pass as an adult! You don’t know everything. You can’t possibly be great at everything. You have strengths and weaknesses. The best way to build your self esteem is to try new things and get good at them.
It all starts with your inner dialogue. Building confidence takes time. Being more confident in yourself takes many failures. How you respond to those failures is how your self esteem will respond.
Always treat yourself kindly. Especially in failure. Positive thinking is such a powerful tool for us to have. Truly believe that you are going to succeed at learning this new thing that you are trying. No matter how long it takes or how many failures you have to go through before you get there.
Keep your thoughts positive and you will be rewarded with more than just achieving what you want to achieve, you will be happy during the process as well.
Don’t you love being around people who seemingly have it all together? They walk into a room and you can just tell that they have the confidence to walk up to anyone in there and start a conversation.
The probably weren’t always that way. They have built themselves up with years of trials and errors. They have mastered their mindset and have taken positive thinking into everything that they do.
It’s not that confident people aren’t sometimes afraid of rejection or looking stupid. It’s more of an understanding that the thoughts of other people do not matter at all compared to what you think of yourself. Their thoughts shouldn’t even be a blip on your radar.
Building confidence is a mental game. It starts with how you perceive yourself. Positive thinking and the thoughts you have about yourself are what will help you to grow your self esteem.
It doesn’t matter if you fail.
It doesn’t matter if you look stupid.
All that matters is how you believe in yourself above all else. You know that you can achieve anything that you want to achieve as long as you have a positive mindset and the ability to take a breath.
Believe that change is possible for you
It doesn’t matter where you’re starting. I used to have the worst body language and most timid voice out of anyone that I knew.
I would slouch. I would mumble. I never believed in myself.
And then I changed the way I thought about myself. I started to believe that I was confident. I consciously made the decision to always sit up straight and stand up straight with my shoulders back and my chest out.
I visualized myself as a confident person. My thoughts went from questioning my abilities to understanding that I could figure things out as long as I kept my thoughts positive.
One of the biggest things that helped me was understanding the different categories in my life that I really needed to focus on.
Build confidence in yourself by truly believing that you can change. Because you can change. You can go from a shy timid person to the most confident person that you know. It all starts with positive thinking towards yourself.
Don’t compare yourself to other people
Comparison to others is one of the biggest hurdles that we have to overcome to build confidence in ourselves. We are wired to be competitive. But we aren’t on the same playing field with the people around us.
It doesn’t matter if we grew up in the same neighborhood or even if we had the same parents. We can’t compare ourselves to other people because we are not the same. We have different world views, emotional responses, and thoughts about ourselves.
The only person that you should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday. There is nobody else that you should even be considering.
It’s so hard to stay positive when you don’t believe that you are making progress towards your goals. But you are making progress. Even if it’s the tiniest little bit.
You are better than you were yesterday and you must believe that. Your mindset is everything. You are better now than you’ve ever been! The fact that you are even reading this article means that you care about who you are and growing into the confident person with high self esteem that you want to be.
Think about what you accomplished yesterday and just accomplish a little bit more today. Then accomplish a little bit more tomorrow. You will be extremely successful if you have a positive mindset and just continue to grow a little bit every day.
Wrapping it up
The best way to improve your self esteem, build confidence in yourself, and believe in yourself is to learn to have positive thinking.
Don’t continue down the same path of working yourself to the bone and still questioning whether you are getting any better. Instead, continue to work hard, but make sure your mindset is in line with your goals for yourself.
You have aspirations that reach beyond what the average person has. You know that you are going to accomplish great things. You will to be a more confident person. It’s just going to take time and positive thinking to get there.
You will be waking up every day with a new sense of purpose and drive to be the best that you can be!
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